Skaneateles Lake

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A sampling of reactions to the fact that my sister Laura was going to be riding around Skaneateles Lake this weekend:

My (our) mother: "If she can't make it, what are you going to do?"
My wife: "Should I come and wait in Skaneateles just in case?"
Her husband: "I don't know, maybe she's been training, but every day when I come home the bike is in the same place."

Family of haters! Forty-five miles and several hours later, I can report that Laura is not only still alive, but made it around the entire lake without being towed or driven. Good job, Laura!

It was all the more impressive because, for the first time this summer, I had some bad weather. It was bright enough when we started down East Lake Road, but after about an hour it started to drizzle, then rain lightly, then freaking rain a lot. Cold rain. It didn't help when A) the "town" of Scott at the south end of the lake turned out not to be a thing at all, so we couldn't take a break anywhere indoors; or B) when a friendly mailman sent us down the wrong road for two miles during peak rainfall.

We were rewarded once we rounded the lake, though, with a stretch of beautiful vacation houses on Glen Haven Road on the southwest shore. They were tucked into the heavily wooded hillside in an amazing variety of construction. I'd never been down there before, even when I worked in Skaneateles, but it's definitely on my list for a return visit.

The rain let up after about two hours and we had a nice ride back into town. Now that Skaneateles is finished, I've got just three lakes left: Canandaigua next weekend, Keuka the following and Cayuga the one after that.

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Conesus Lake and some important Murphy family news

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It was a productive weekend for Finger Lakes bike riding, as I knocked off two lakes in two days. Saturday I rode around Otisco with my good friend Scott MacPherson. I'll wait to write about that one until later this week, though, because my ride Sunday was special for a few reasons.

Conesus Lake is probably the Finger Lake where I've spent the most time; it's closest to Rochester and my aunts Kathy and Patty live there year-round. I started and finished there Sunday, and got to visit with them, my cousin Charlsey and her husband J.T. afterward, which was great.

The main reason I was excited for this ride, though, was because my wife Kat was doing it with me. She's quite an athlete - she used to play competitive ice hockey - but I saved one of the shortest lakes for our ride together.

Not because she couldn't handle something longer. It's just that she's 13 weeks pregnant.

Kat is going to be an amazing mom. She's a planner - maybe even an over-planner - and it didn't take long for her to research the best prenatal vitamins, what not to eat and where to give birth. We've been religious about meeting with our midwife from URMC and reading our baby books. If you have a few hours to kill, ask us what names we're considering.

In brief, Little Murphy is going to have every advantage we can give him or her, and that's how it ought to be. We're nervous as any first-time parents are, but we know we have the support, knowledge and resources to raise our child right-ish.

That may sound familiar from your own experience raising (or being) children. And while much of that maternal instinct is innate, not all of it is. A lot of our parenting will be learned behavior from our own parents, who did a great job. But what if we hadn't had their example?

You see where I'm going with this. I've been writing for months that helping at-risk first-time mothers-to-be is an important thing to do. Now that my own wife is a first-time mother-to-be, it really hits home.

We know how much there is to worry about and to learn. Kat and I are picking it up as fast as we can before our delivery arrives in late January. We both believe strongly that every other young woman in the same position deserves the same support and knowledge we're getting.

Please donate to the dang charity. I'll post more updates soon, about the biking and the baby.

Seneca Lake, and something you can do

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I rode 79 miles around Seneca Lake on Saturday, by myself. It's the only one of my 10 rides I expect to do alone - but, like most everyone else in our country, I had a lot to think about anyway.

Don't worry, I'll be brief.

How can we hold in mind at the same time both the ongoing, centuries-old tragedy of the treatment of black people in America and also the need to support, not demonize, the people whose job it is to uphold our laws? Can we find a way to talk about the bias each of us carries around every day without devolving to hypocrisy and shaming?

I find this sort of rhetorical exercise tiresome. Even writing those two sentences was tiresome.

Here's what I think. It has always been a feature of humanity on Earth that there are opportunities to help people. I'm inclined to believe that feature was created on purpose, but that's another point.

Those opportunities (that is, instances of human suffering) exist in an abundance and variety we can scarcely conceive of. You could never get to the end of them if you dedicated 10 lifetimes to it.

The trick, though, is that you have to actually act on them. And that's where everyone gets stuck. How many Facebook posts or news stories have you seen in the last two weeks that finish in some hopeless rhetorical question? What can I do? When will things change? What's the matter with everyone?

Look: there are literally thousands of people in Rochester, or wherever you are living, who will give you something to do that will lead to a demonstrable improvement in the state of the world.

If you go to a food cupboard, they'll say: put these potatoes in this box. If you go to a hospice, they'll say: take these sheets and go change that bed. If you go to a school, they'll say: take this book and read it to that kid.

Those are things that make things better, and you can pick any one you like. That's a blessing!

The subtext here is that I want you to donate money to the charity I'm riding around all these lakes for. Nurse-Family Partnership is good at that simple declarative sentence kind of help: they pay nurses to spend a lot of time with poor pregnant teenagers so their babies have half a shot at a healthy, successful, fulfilling life. That's not a hashtag; that's actually changing the world.

I guess I wasn't terribly brief after all.

About Seneca Lake: that was the longest I've ever ridden my bike in one shot, and I was feeling it by the end. The last 15 miles or so were very challenging. It was a great sense of accomplishment, though, to look back across the lake to where I had been riding six hours earlier and know I'd gone that far on my own locomotion.

Better yet, while I was doing it, four people donated a combined $95, bringing my total above $1,300. Thanks to Christine, Bill, Dave and Brian. We're accomplishing something.